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To sleep together or not to sleep together? That is the question!

May 14, 2014


To sleep together or not to sleep together? That is the question!

To sleep in the same bed or not to sleep in the same bed? That is the question that is being debated in bedrooms around the world with both sides offering pretty convincing arguments about whether there should be one bed or two in the bedroom.

Certainly if we look back at classic television sitcoms from the middle of last century, all the couples in those shows slept in separate beds and it didn't seem to affect their closeness did it? Even if it wasn't ridiculous to take life advice from fictional television characters from a tv series half a century ago, there is a grain of truth to this suggestion. For many the bedroom is not just a place for intimacy and bonding, it is also a space for you to relax, destress and get away from the madness and children in the rest of the house. For very busy couples getting a few hours of uninterrupted sleep is essential and anybody who has slept next to somebody who is a restless sleeper or has ice for feet might be very tempted by the idea of sleeping in separate beds and it seems that they are not alone; according to a recent study by a leading memory foam mattress specialist one in six British couples sleep in separate beds.

Sleeping in separate beds isn't surprising when you come to think about it: a lot of people have different sleeping patterns to that of their partners or have radically different working hours. Many couples also have very different warmth requirements to their partners and this can lead to an all out war to maintain control over the blankets or on the other hand, many women going through menopause find that sleeping right next to somebody is a nightmare. Separate beds are already increasingly popular among couples that have already been together for decades.

Advocates against the idea of separate beds are quick to point out the physiological benefits of spending the night next to a partner. They claim that not only does physical contact increase the levels of oxytocin, the 'love hormone', which can help the body relax, heal and reduce blood pressure, but this physical connection between partners while they unwind or talk about their respective days can increase the strength of their relationship. Other scientists and sociologists point to the protector/protected relationship and suggest that the physical connection throughout the night of somebody you are 'protecting' or being 'protected' by can increase the romantic and nurturing connection between partners. Of course this doesn't solve the problems of a restless partner, different sleeping habits or a sudden attack of cold feet in the middle of the night.


That is where an adjustable bed comes into play. While many people are opting for an adjustable bed for health reasons, more people are turning to them because they offer the perfect compromise for couples who have different sleep needs, but can't stand the idea of having to sleep in different beds. In this way the adjustable bed offers the perfect compromise for couples: not only can each partner have their side of the bed set up perfectly for their sleep needs, but their partner is only an arm's reach away. Now if only we could solve the snoring crisis…


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